I have this platform to talk and reach atleast a handful of good readers. Thankfully there have been so many supportive friends and acquaintances who appreciate and empower me time and again for my blog. I talk about fashion and i talk about various aspects of my day to day dressing up game. The prerequisite quality needed to pull of any outfit isnt the tags on your clothes or your body size, it is your self confidence that carries the outfit and makes it look fab or drab.
I choose to talk about a topic that isnt about a trend or seasons fashion favourite . But it is what is evergreen and always required – self confidence.
“Self confidence is the first requisite to great undertakings.” – Samuel Johnson
Self confidence means being assured – in your own worth, ability, and power, regardless of the situation you are in. Someone who is self-confident has a strong sense of self-belief and certainty in herself. She exudes calmness, composure, and is self-aware. Lack of self-confidence is a crippling trait because it limits you in your opportunities and jeopardizes your chances of success, which cannot lead to a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So why talk about such a philosphical topic on a fashion blog ?
Well because to dress up well and slay the outfit , or for that matter slay any job/task , the very first requirement is to have that self confidence, that you are capable of it. For instance, if you wear a certain outfit or do a certain job and have a self doubt about it , it wont be your best shot and you may not stand a chance to win the situation. The first habit you should practice to maintain an unshakeable self-confidence in any situation is having great self-esteem. When you like and respect yourself, you always perform and behave better than if you did not.The more you like yourself, the more confidence you have. The more you like yourself, and believe in yourself, the more efficient and effective you are in each area of your life.
Self-esteem is the key to handling yourself the best way possible and that will ultimately lead you to nail any kind of trend and any level of work. If you are not skilled at a particular activity, you will be stuck in a comfort zone and feel uncomfortable at the very thought of stepping out of it. Failing to overcome a lack of self-confidence and failing to believe in yourself will prevent you from achieving the kind of success you dream about.
I follow a few life hacks to build in my confidence and self esteem , and I assume that it may help a bit if anyone is interested in practising them.
Empower yourself with a great wardrobe : When you look better, you feel better. If you choose clothing and accessories that fit you well, suit your industry and lifestyle, and make you feel good, this will automatically increase your self-esteem. Look like the part you want to play, or in other words, ‘suit up for success’.
Right Body language
Your body language can instantly demonstrate self-assuredness, or it can scream insecurity. Present yourself in a way that says you are ready to master or take command of any situation. If you look confident and act the part you aspire to reach, you’ll not only feel in control, people will have much more confidence in you as well.
Hold your head high, sit up straight, gently bring your shoulders back to align your spine and look directly at the other person when interacting. Avoid a limp handshake and maintain good eye contact while someone is speaking to you.
Know your limits
First, it keeps us from unhealthy delusions of grandeur! Noone is perfect and everyone has flaws. We need to know our flaws before anyone else does. When we know our limits – both strengths and weaknesses, we will automatically become confident of ourselves as well as our trades.
Grow through the insecurities
Well, to have a decent opinion about ourselves we need to learn to embrace our faults and follies. If a person remains trapped in the cage of self consciousness, she will never be confident in any situation. Hence its an everyday exercise to keep growing out of what we are not and be ourselves unhesitatingly.
Learn to laugh at yourself
Oh yes , till we know to laugh at ourselves, we will never be confident. The other way round is also true, only confident women can have the ego that allows them to laugh at their own self.
Never fail to try and Never be afraid to fail (or make an outfit mistake)
Don’t get caught off guard if you try and fail. All the biggest fashion evolution and world discoveries happened because someone dared to try. Hence when you wish to try a certain outfit, concentrate all your energies to carry the outfit, no matter what.
Learn what suits you
We will be in denial, if we disagree on the fact that for every individual there is a fashion trend which suits them perfectly. On the other hand , there may be something that doesn’t suit you or maybe you aint totally comfortable with it. Therefore do find what suits you, be it in the fashion arena or life in general. If you are know what suits you, you will certainly be confident and high on self esteem.
Be aware of your sizes well
Wearing a well fitted dress makes you more confident: No matter how superficial this may sound but the truth is that a man feels better in a dapper suit than in something ill fitted. So at places/situations where we need to keep our confidence level really high , for instance – interviews, conferences , first dates etc, its safe to say that the right fitted attire may save your day.
Healthy Stalking and social media
Stalk to be influenced in a positive manner! For instance , not everything that you see on instagram is real. Comparison is a monster and may lead into low self esteem. Stalking isn’t bad. STALK – to know about people , get motivated by their lives , learn their skills and knowledge , follow their trends and crafts , etc. In short , stalk to learn not to burn.
Empowering others makes you empowered
Being positive , giving compliments , kind behaviour , friendly attitude and the list goes on. These are the traits of confident people . Inducing the habit of empowering others , is the healthiest food for the brain to build an unshakeable self confidence. When we can acknowledge the qualities of others and yet not be intimidated , its then we have attained the most confident version of ourselves.
Not all criticism is bad
Last but not the least , criticism is as necessary for growth as rain is to plants. Of course there are lot of mean people around saying things that may pull us back, but we should always strive to push ourselves and look at the brighter side. Confidence and self esteem is important as much on the surface as it is at the root level. Constructive criticism not only tells us where to make improvements but is interconnected to the points I mentioned above. Utilising criticism positively for self esteem boost is a major tool to make any person confident and self aware.
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